If you do discover he is drawn to it – or even has a strong fetishistic attachment to it – try not to feel threatened. It’s really OK – it’s just one of the many human variations of eroticism. People who like to cross-dress typically hide this interest because they fear judgment from others. Presumably you feel that you cannot discuss this with him until an opportunity arises that would not reveal you had been searching through his internet history. I recommend that if you were, say, to stumble upon visual cross-dressing material together at some point, that might be an ideal time to discuss the practice with him, in a totally nonjudgmental fashion. Relax. And do stop snooping!
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